Being a positive person is easier said than done. Especially in this media-obsessed society we live in. You check your phone in the morning and see all the terrible things going on in the news. You check Facebook just to see people spewing their negative thoughts through their statuses. And don’t even get me started on Instagram; the perfect platform for self-comparison. With all this negativity surrounding us in the world, it can be difficult to break free and see things through a positive lens.
A few months back, I noticed how heavily negativity had been weighing on my life. I was constantly complaining, always assuming the worst and just hands down not happy. That’s when I knew I needed to make a change. If you have found yourself in a negative rut lately, no need to worry, I have some tips to help pull you out.
How you start your day will determine the rest.
If you start your day convinced that it will be a bad one, guess what? It will be. The attitude you start your day with will determine how the rest of your day will go and how you will handle any inconveniences that come your way. So get into a routine of doing something that lifts your spirits in the morning. This can be as simple as listing three things you’re thankful for that day or reciting positive affirmations/mantras. Meditation is also a great way to get you prepped for the day (if you’ve never tried meditation but want to give it a go, check out Headspace). For me, this is reading my devotional and listening to upbeat music. Doing this helps put me in the mindset to tackle the day with a grateful heart, regardless of what I’m faced with.
Perception vs. Reality.
If you’re an overthinker like I am, most of the negative thoughts running through your mind are self-produced. If we continue to feed our negative thoughts, they’ll continue to control us. The quicker we break this habit the better. To do this, do a perception vs. reality test. Here’s an example of how this works:
My perception: UGH I failed my bio test. I’m a stupid failure. My GPA is screwed.
Reality: Although my test score is disappointing, it’s only a fraction of my overall grade. I’ve done well in the class so far and I’ll be sure to perform better on the next one.
The key is to get out of your head and see things as they really are. 99 percent of the time, the negative things we let consume us are NBD.
Be careful who you give your energy to.
If you surround yourself with negative people, you’re going to absorb all of that. Have you ever noticed that when you start to hang out with someone who complains a lot you start to complain about everything too? That’s why it’s so important to surround yourself with people who radiate positivity. Get some new friends if you have to, sis. Negativity is like poison.
Unfortunately, because of things like work and school, we can’t always avoid these positive energy dementors. Angry people who are determined to bring us down with them are practically unavoidable. When you come across these kinds of people, your first instinct may be to fight fire with fire. But ask yourself, “Is this person worth my energy?”. I guarantee you the answer is probably no. No one is worth ruining your joy. Even for a second. So sometimes it’s just best to walk away.
Give some love.
Loving on others is one of the best ways to fill your heart with joy and bring in positive vibes. The best part is, it doesn’t take much to make someone’s day. Small gestures go a long way. Leave your roomie a cute note. Compliment that girl in your English class on her blinding highlighter. Text your dad and tell him you hope he has a good day and let him know you’re thinking about him. Your small act of kindness will brighten your day and theirs. Everyone wins.
End the day the way you started it.
Just the way you started your day on a positive note, you gotta end it with one. To do this, you can incorporate some of the methods you used in the morning like mantras and meditation. But the most important thing is to reflect on the day and think of all the positive aspects. Before I go to bed I write one good thing that happened that day into a journal. If it was a terrible or uneventful day, it might be something as small as writing that I saw a cute dog on campus. Regardless of what that “good thing” is, the purpose is to focus on the positive parts of your day and disregard the negative.
When we have found ourselves in the nasty cycle of negativity for a long period of time, it can be difficult to break free. So don’t expect yourself to turn into little Miss. Sunshine overnight. Be patient with yourself. Try to catch yourself when you’re being negative and flip the script. Breathe in the good, and exhale the bad. Life is a lot more beautiful when we have a grateful heart.
What do y’all do on a daily basis to remain positive? Comment below!